Nut Roast 🎄

I bought all the ingredients late last week but I got a bit sick 🤮 and didn’t feel up to making the roast until today 🤔🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

This is the Bosh Ultimate Nut Roast, pg 128 of Bish Bash Bosh. I actually won a signed copy by Henry and Ian. I gave it to Stacey as she is wonderful at cooking me vegan meals, plus I had already bought a copy.

Wow it was a marathon afternoon for me. Thank goodness I have all the time in the world and nothing else to do as this took me all afternoon. Don’t worry it won’t take you as long as me 😉.

I know it’s still November and this is my nut roast for Christmas but I knew it was going to take a while and drain every last energy spoon for a few days so I wanted to get it done now and in the freezer.

Gallery 🌱

Last year Stacey made this for our Christmas and it was amazing. Stacey and Noush are currently touring South America so won’t be home for Christmas 😭.

#Weekendcoffeeshare – Aberdeen 11-14/11/22

Well this was a big adventure for me, 4 days away from home!

Journey 🚘

It was a very blustery 4 hours travelling to Aberdeen 🌬. We also made a quick stop in Moffat to get a couple of tins of Moffat toffee as gifts 😋.

Friday

After arriving at our Aberdeen Douglas Hotel apartment, it was a short walk to Brewdog Castlegate for dinner. I do like being able to order what you want online at the table, even if it means I pay 😂. In fact I probably tried more things being able to leisurely peruse the online menu. Bonus still a couple and their apricot Cockerpoo called Cooper sat at the table next to us. Dogs have their own menu at Brewdog ❤️.

It was just a short walk to the cinema to see Black Panther: Wakanda Forever. I didn’t realise it was just out but the cinema was showing it at multiple times so it wasn’t too busy. We opted to see it in 3D. Wow perhaps 2h 41m movie was not the best choice when we were we both so tired 😴.

Saturday

I had read about the Vegan Bay Baker on Facebook and since they would only be open during our stay today, I wanted to go. Wow so many vegan goodies to choose from. I settled on some yummy Danishes, some had fillings too.

Saturday was our catch up with friends, starting at 2pm.

We spent a number of hours sitting at the busy and very long bar of the Prince of Wales pub. Having not been out for so long, being somewhere so busy was really odd. Thankfully I had a seat, a high one.

Next we headed to Da Vinci’s restaurant for dinner. I had booked the restaurant after joining the Aberdeen vegan Facebook group where a number of people had recommended it. Ray and I both had the vegan lasagna. The lasagna itself was ok but the tomato sauce which was like a moat around it was amazing. Something I had never really considered until today was the location of toilets. The ladies were upstairs and nope that wasn’t going to be doable considering how long I had been out and how painful my hips were. Thankfully the restaurant offered me access to their disabled ground floor toilet. So it was a bit like a store cupboard but I was grateful I didn’t need to try the stairs.

On our walk back we stopped at the Wetherspoons pub The Justice Mill. Oh my, I have never seen so many cocktail pitchers. That pub must have pitchers galore never mind the quantity of ice they must go through. I’m surprised they gave out glasses as most people I saw with pitchers had it for themselves so a straw would have done them 😉. I was on my cannabis oils and painkillers so only had the one cocktail with my dinner so I loved seeing what everyone else was having 🍹.

With my Garmin saying I was at 10%, Ray took me back to the apartment.

Sunday

My plans didn’t quite go as planned 🤣😂.

After breakfast, we headed to the Trinity Centre. It wasn’t quite open yet but we were able to walk round. Instead of the 2 hours I had planned, it took 10 minutes. I had planned the day round us being able to go to the Art museum, which didn’t open until 12noon. So we headed to Bon Accord, another shopping centre close by. It took maybe 20 minutes 🤣. What did make me smile was stopping for a coffee and seeing a number of kids being dropped off by their parents which we could only assume was for some kind of dungeons and dragons club – how cool is that 😎. They were setting up a Christmas market next to the Police College, which I thought was a church at first.

The Art museum had an eclectic mix from pin photography to Renoir.

We then headed to Nando’s for some food: vegan spiced chickpea burgers 🌱

A quick visit to Lush for a ‘Moon Bath’ bath bomb (a blend of citrus essential oils) and a long soak at the appartment for an hour – bliss ☺️. Wow the smells from this bath bomb was amazing and it made a wonderful crackling noise.

After a wee rest Ray took me round to see the vessels in the harbour and a walk round Union Square shopping centre. Union Square was really lovely with its Christmas lights. The shops were closed but the first floor restaurants were buzzing. Also found they had a Cineworld and could have watched the Blank Panther movie in 4x which would have been awesome 😢.

Monday

After checking out of the apartment we headed back to Union Square shopping centre as I had seen a couple of shops I fancied visiting. I also had a quick look round Hobby Craft but I couldn’t see if they had a lift to get upstairs and I didn’t think I would manage the stairs.

Back home and a long soak with another Lush bath bomb Ray had bought me last year. Lots of Biofreeze massaged onto my hips and some TV before an early night 😴 in my own amazing bed.

Summary

It was a really lovely 4 days with Ray. I was a bit sad because I realised how poorly my mobility has got. I’m also glad I took my Cannabis oils or I would have been in a lot more pain. Big thanks to Ray who always makes sure I am looked after. BUMPER STICKER ‘Life is short, enjoy each day ❤️’

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Halloween 2022 🎃

I think I always liked Halloween for the fact you could dress up and be someone / something completely different 🧛‍♂️ 👻 . It was fun. I never liked having to think of something to do or say, or worse still, to sing to get my sweets. When the kids were small, thinking up what to dress them up as was fun too.

Halloween brings the same feelings of fun and excitement to see what the local children dress up as but now also brings me sadness as we lost Jasper 3 years ago just after Halloween. Jasper also wasn’t keen on people coming to the house so for a few years we used to leave the treats outside for the kids to help themselves.

But this year, I have made an effort, well as much as an effort as I could 😂🤣

Can you guess what I am?

Happy Halloween 🎃

End of a Chapter

I wrote this as Trustee for the Charities June 2022 Newsletter:

I’m Kim, Network Secretary since October 2021. This is my second time as a Trustee for the Network. I found the Network in 2015 after meeting a member at one of the monthly pain association meetings in Dumfries. For me, being a Trustee is both rewarding and hard work as I want to give 100% when I might only have 10%. Thankfully, we have a super Board of Trustees who have collective responsibility for the Network, which means making informed decisions about the direction to take the Network as a whole. Having something to motivate me remain as active as able is really important but I find the line between too little and too much, very fluid.

Moving to Dumfries when I was in primary 2, I have been married to a Doonhamer for over 30 years. We have 2 adult children, who like my husband make me proud every single day. I have 30 years lived experience of my illnesses which led to ill health retirement in 2019. My background is management and accountancy, working with the Forestry Commission, Dumfries & Galloway Council and finally with NHS Dumfries & Galloway.

Gentle hugs to you all J

Notice of Retirement

I made the decision in July 2022, after a four hour Board meeting, that I would retire at the October AGM. I’m sorry but I never signed up for four hour meetings! I became a Trustee to help and give back but the detrimental effects on my health had become too high. Being the type of person I am, I wrote operating procedures so that my successor could have something to adapt.

Resignation

Despite my best effort to continue as a Trustee up until the AGM, I resigned on Saturday 4th September. To be honest, the two days leading up to my resignation were awful with the Charity. There are always two sides to every story and in this case there are three. So there is no point in me giving you my version of events, as others will see it entirely differently. What is important, to me at least, is I felt my only option was to resign as Trustee and cancel my membership with the charity with immediate effect.

Reflection

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” That reminds me, I will be removing the link to the Charity from my ‘Resources’ page as I no longer wish to associate with them.

Do you want to change your life?

The following 6 quotes by Maya Angelou may be a good start.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

Whenever you feel stuck and start panicking about what to do next, remind yourself to only focus on the next right move. And remember, you can’t control the world, you can only control your own actions.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

Sometimes all you can control is your effort and your attitude. We have the choice to act in a way that contributes to our own wellness. This also makes me think of the Serenity Prayer.

“If you’re always trying to be normal, you’ll never know how amazing you can be.”

Do you act normal instead of real just to be liked or to avoid conflict? Wouldn’t it be amazing to do all the things you desire and live the unique life you deserve instead of doing what everyone else is doing? Being anything but normal has always been important to me.

“You are the sum of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot — it’s all there. Everything influences each of us, and because of that, I try to make sure that my experiences are positive.”

You choose your destiny. You pick the things to surround yourself by, which eventually lead to the life you experience. If you want different experiences, make new choices. Your time and energy are the most scarce resources you have, be cautious not to waste them with negative influences. Choose positive experiences whenever possible. Being retired makes avoiding negative influences easier for me 😉.

“Whatever you want to do, if you want to be great at it, you have to love it and be able to make sacrifices for it.”

Ask yourself what you truly enjoy and start investing your energy into the things that fulfill your soul because that’s where you’ll find most potential for success.

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”

Ask yourself what success means for you and what do you actually want.

I drafted this post nearly a month ago when I came across one of Maya’s quotes. For the life of me, I now can’t remember how I came across it although there is a pretty high probability it was while watching one of the many movies I now appear to be getting through. Positivity is a fundamental part of self management for me so I hope you don’t mind me sharing these. Gentle hugs 🤗

My first attempt at chutney 🥒 🍏

Who hates wasted food?

There are not many things I hate, but wasted food is one of them. Juggling short life kitchen food can be a bit of a struggle. There have been many times where I have mentally meal planned only to forget the next day. Even writing it down, I forget. However, being retired does have its advantages in that I generally have more time to think and plan.

I got some unexpected cucumber from a friend, which my meal prep hadn’t accounted for. What could I do with it? I tried pickling cucumber before, which was amazing. But I had never tried chutney 💡. After a very brief Google search, I found a cucumber and apple recipe.

It was yummy 🤤

No Enemies

With the passing of HM Queen Elizabeth II, I have rewatched The Crown on Netflix. I found the following poem which was spoken by PM Margaret Thatcher in ‘The Balmoral Test’ S4 E2 both thought provoking and relatable.

“No Enemies” by Scottish poet Charles Mackay, who lived from 1814 to 1889.

You have no enemies, you say?

Alas! my friend, the boast is poor;

He who has mingled in the fray

Of duty, that the brave endure,

Must have made foes! If you have none,

Small is the work that you have done.

You’ve hit no traitor on the hip,

You’ve dashed no cup from perjured lip,

You’ve never turned the wrong to right,

You’ve been a coward in the fight.

Making difficult decisions and actions is never easy, and one not taken lightly or with malice, despite what others might think. Most people enjoy the status quo and valiantly fight against change. Progress and change is difficult and uncomfortable for so many. I wish I didn’t have enemies and have struggled with the knowledge that I have upset people enough to make enemies. This poem reminds me that enemies are inevitable if you stand up for what is right, turning wrongs into rights. A coward I am not.

Are you willing to create enemies to do what is right?

Home Reno – Bedroom Finished 🥳

Prep

It took Ray months to lift the floor tiles and prepare the floor ready to start tiling 😰. Yes it could have taken less time if he had just went in with a heavy duty piece of kit to break up all the tiles but he was trying to save as many as he could so they could be reused.

First time Tiling

Between the end of March 2022 to early July 2022 he laid 82 tiles to replace the shocking tiling completed by the tiler with 45 years of experience. Ray did fabulous. Despite having never tiled before, even his cuts round the doorframe were amazing and he had to start with these. No more tile lippage in the bedroom 🤩.

Replacement Skirting Boards

Originally the floor had been very uneven, despite being newly laid concrete! The builders had cut the skirting boards to fit the uneven floor, which were varnished by the painters – why? Initially we thought they could be cut to the shortest width. However, the varnish had been applied when the boards were flat meaning it had pulled in the recesses – not great. So in August we took the decision to buy replacement skirting, which Ray cut, laid and varnished.

My new ground floor bedroom 😊

I am so happy getting my ground floor bedroom. It has been a long wait but Rome wasn’t built in a day 😉. Everything I need now is on the ground floor and I can’t tell you how much that means to me. Thank you Ray 😘.

Check out my older posts: Tile redo! Why did we end up here?